Random III

It’s Friday so why not do another post about my random thoughts/observations/questions? I might as well make this a Friday ritual…

  • why isn’t the number 11 pronounced onety-one?
  • have you filed your taxes yet?
  • just found out i am going to Seattle for work — sweet!
  • is it how often you drink or how much you drink which makes you an alcoholic?
  • or is it just if you do bad things when you’re drunk that makes you an alcoholic?
  • women with long legs and high heels are sexy except if they cannot walk in them (do some girls just not care? or do they really not realize how ridiculous they look trying to walk in them?)
  • speaking of women, they should all own a pair of low top, black, chuck taylor’s (just saying)
  • i cannot decide if lingerie is just a waste and only looks good in magazines or if it’s really practical
  • download ‘Be My Thrill’ and ‘World Spins Madly On’ by The Weepies
  • does anyone want to buy my iPad?
  • blowing your nose too much and having it get raw is awful
  • my morale at work would increase if it was casual day every day
  • i think there was some slight sarcasm ^ then again…
  • logging what you eat definitely makes eating healthier much easier
  • i turn 24 in approximately 16 days — i can’t decide if that’s old?! haha
  • i’ll be in florida on the beach for my birthday so it doesn’t really matter
  • i have no explanation for why or why i didn’t capitalize certain words in this post
  • i’m going to see ‘Hair’ this weekend at The Orpheum
  • do people generally prefer sex with the lights on or off?
  • does pressing the elevator buttons more make the door close faster?
  • if you haven’t made out in an elevator, do it. you’d be surprised how fast you get to your desired floor
  • this is what i’m eating for breakfast tomorrow morning
  • disregard what i said about eating healthy above (saturday is my free day)
  • on that note, have a wonderful friday and weekend, folks

Just Say Something

Have you ever not said or done something because you were scared to get rejected and/or end up with nothing? If so, we all know how it goes: we feel like we should not have said anything and kept going with what we had because we were content – whatever that means. We try to justify that having something is better than having nothing. But we shouldn’t be content with what we have right now if we want something more. Simply going through the motions because we’re afraid that asking for more might result in us having less, or nothing, is the wrong way to look at it. If you want more, it means you’re not happy with the current situation. Holding onto this because it’s “something” is a waste of your time and effort. Waiting around for more to just come may eventually happen, but the possibility of waiting around and that resulting in nothing is just as likely. It isn’t worth the risk.

Ask yourself this: would you rather ask for more knowing you tried and did everything in your power to achieve this and end up with nothing (and be slighty embarrassedal albeit only temporarily) or continue trying to convince yourself that what you have now is ok but more would be much better never knowing if you could have actually had more?

I almost learned the hard way; fortunately, it wasn’t too late and things worked out for the better. Don’t find out the hard way. Say something regardless if it’s easier said than done.

(This might be rather confusing because I purposely left this as vague as possible, but you can apply it to anything this way – your current job situation, a relationship, etc.)

It’s the Little Things

Most people enjoy hearing compliments; it makes them feel good about themselves. We go out on dates and immediately say/hear, “I love your outfit. You look so nice.” We get a smile on our face, maybe blush a little, and then move onto the next thing. We quickly forget about it because it’s a generic compliment. It’s easy to say and almost necessary. If you’re out with someone it’s safe to assume you’re attracted to that person (if not, you’ve got other issues) and there are a number of obvious physical characteristics you like –they have a nice smile, you like their eyes, you love their long blonde, curly hair, etc. I’m not saying we all need to take these things for granted and forget them because yes, it is nice to hear these things once and a while, but the real compliments are the little things. I want to hear how you get butterflies in your stomach before we hang out, how you like when I rub a certain part of your back, or how easy I am to talk to because I am simply a good listener. These are the things we don’t notice about ourselves because it’s impossible to realize we do certain things without them being brought to our attention. When you hear a compliment like that you subsequently think about it every time you do it from there on out, and each and every time it brings a smile to your face. These are the compliments that truly stand out and have a lasting impression. Think of something your significant other does that makes you smile; now go tell them.

Apparently I Love Lists

  • is there anything better worse than grocery shopping while you’re starving?
  • there’s that perfect volume on your headphones where you can fully enjoy the music but still hear your surroundings if need be
  • is it weird that staying home, drinking, and playing board games (only if I win) is up there on my list of favorite things to do?
  • if you couldn’t tell by the parentheses above, I am a sore loser
  • it’s so hard not to bite/suck on the strings that hang from hooded sweatshirts
  • do swimmers have swimmer bodies because they swim or do they swim because the have a swimmer’s body?
  • Jolly Rancher’s are severely underrated
  • why are glasses so much dirtier when you take them off? how do we not see all the dirt when we’re wearing them?
  • realizing I’m going the exact speed when I see a speed limit sign makes me smile
  • guys wear their pants so you can see their boxer/briefs/etc. whereas girls do anything possible to keep their underwear/panties below their pants
  • for some reason I really want to go camping
  • most of the time hearing random quirks about yourself that delight others is better than receiving a “traditional” compliment
  • lastly, have a wonderful valentine’s day with your fling/lover/partner/friend/etc.

Electronic Communication and Relationships

It seems like everywhere I read lately, the articles suggest that my generation is losing its social skills and ability to interact without a computer screen between them and the other person. If we eliminate the computer screens and mobile phones from our relationships, apparently our social skills will dramatically improve because we are forced to interact face-to-face, but why is this so certain?

Does electronic communication allow us to interact more conveniently at times when, with a little more work, it may be more successfully done in person? Of course, but this is generally with people you don’t have a substantial relationship with anyway. With individuals we have/want a relationship with, electronic communication provides a tool to enhance it. I say enhance because it definitely speeds up the progress of the relationship. Electronic communication allows us to talk when it was otherwise impossible to do so. We are technically able to communicate at any time and on our own accord. It also gives us a sense of comfort when we say things we would not ordinarily bring up until much later in a relationship. Topics such as our beliefs, sex, opinions, etc. which may seem like issues previously only covered when two people are/were extremely close to one another are now issues that can be discussed with ease at a much earlier stage in the relationship. These things often tell us if the relationship is worth advancing or not and discovering these things about people earlier is a positive thing.  Essentially we aren’t “wasting” as much time getting to know people that may wind up as just another acquaintance. And speeding up the process with people we do want to pursuit a relationship cannot be a bad thing.

Electronic communication definitely acts as a crutch at times and allows people to take an “easy” way out of interacting with individuals we normally would be forced to deal with, but concluding that it is limiting our current relationships and disabling our abilities to be as intimate as we once were is wrong. The ability to communicate via electronics has only provided a gateway to improve my relationships and eliminate the ones that I am not interested in quicker.

More Random Musings…

  • watch these two mic’d up videos of Tim Tebow & Matthew Stafford during an NFL game — these guys are studs
  • does everyone have that one song that just puts ’em in a good mood? (“What’s My Name?” by Rihanna is mine)
  • you never find anything when you’re shopping for something specific, but when it’s the other way around…watch out
  • Rumplemintz should be everyone’s go-to shot — no chase and leaves the breath minty fresh
  • Bruno Mars reminds me of Robin Thicke
  • board games are way under-utilized (sign me up for Catch Phrase any night of the week)
  • doesn’t NyQuil realize their “flavors” all taste terrible?
  • eating a bad sunflower seed kills the whole batch in your mouth
  • as much as this pains me to say, I’d love to see the Packers win the Super Bowl
  • I finally watched Inception — is it all just a dream…?
  • if you own an iPhone/iPod Touch you need to download Words With Friends — this game is addicting and fun
  • have most people kissed someone as the New Year has arrived?
  • on that note, I’m done and have yourself a wonderful New Year

Just One More Bite

Between Thanksgiving and New Years I think I eat more food during this time than the rest of the year as a whole.  I think that’s probably the case with a lot of people.  We are around family and friends celebrating different events/holidays and food is plentiful (for most people, I’m not trying to spark any debates about the less fortunate so don’t bother).  We have more vacation days resulting in even more eating and drinking.  To make matters worse, for people going out of town for the holidays they try to limit their grocery shopping since they will be out of the house for extended periods of time in which results in eating out more.  All of this is a good thing though, or so I tell myself.  Who cares if we put on a little extra weight during the holidays, it only makes losing weight next year easier…since that’s at the top of the list of everyone’s New Year’s resolutions AGAIN, right?